Miss Manners: On collecting your tip money - Page 2

 

Don't know why that didn't happen with me.

Try this:

http://news.google.com/news?hl=en&tab=wn&ned=us&q=%22miss+manners%22+bartender

Lenona.

 

http://www.mercurynews.com/entertainmentheadlines/ci_7842577?nclick_check=1

Well, I think it's even odds that the bartender is imagining things and then
responding to those imaginings as though they were fact.  After all, s/he
writes "I think when . . ."

Why does s/he think so?  Has a host or hostess said so?  Has s/he called the
company in the guise of a prospective customer to hear the actual pitch?
Does the bartender submit a bill to the host or hostess and is there a note
on the bill that a gratuity has been added?  Is the bartender's paycheck
from the company below minimum wage?

I've never hired a bartender for a party in my home, but I have attended
parties where it's been done, and it's never occurred to me as a guest to
tip the bartender, or the disc jockey, or any of the other help, any more
than I would reimburse my host for the cost of dinner.  The only time I've
hired a bartender was for my daughter's wedding, and again, it never
occurred to me to tip the guy - I assumed the fee was the price.

I do tip in bars and restaurants, but if there's a note on the menu or the
bill to the effect that "xx% gratuity added for parties greater than yy
persons" I don't add a tip to that as well, though I have no way of knowing
if the restaurant actually distributes the gratuity to the people performing
the service.